Mood And State

As my cold-approach game evolves, I'm moving away from "canned openers" to "situational openers". Situational openers are comments you make about something in the specific environment, such as "What kinda drink is that?" or "Wow, this music sucks".

One thing I've noticed is that my mood effects the night a lot. Sometimes I'm in such a great mood, anything I say or do works, a simple "hi" or a playful punch in the arms out of nowhere would get me in conversations with women. I've never really consciously noticed it until I heard Tyler Durden's latest program, "Blueprint".

Tyler calls it "State", someone who's in that magical mood is considered "in state", and "naturals" get in state more often than others. Looking back, the most "in state" I've gotten was last July 4th, 9 months ago. I haven't gotten anywhere close to that since then.

He also talked about "state" should be coming from within, and not relying on an outside stimuli, which is also something I need to learn to do. In the past, I've always relied on validation from a girl, social proof, or a wingman's state to increase my own.

My Very First "Let's Just Be Friends"

So I went visiting my former city over Easter break. 2 weeks before I got there, I made plans with an ex-coworker I number closed in a book store the last time I was in town, about 9 months ago. She is in her mid-30's, Chinese American, been in the USA for 6 years and lived in Canada for 2 before that. I was slightly nervous about this date, because she worked with me, and if I totally fuck this one up, a lot of my ex-coworkers, including the ones I still keep in contact with, would know about my fuck-up. I had to "play it safe" and disable my "push till it becomes awkward, and then push 20% more" attitude.

Sunday night, we met up around 7PM at a fancy little Spanish bar across the street from where we worked together - quiet house music and colorful ambient light, perfect. She doesn't drink much, so I told her I'd order her something as a surprise, and got her a mango puree (Mango juice and rum in a martini glass). I got a Caipirinha, a really popular Brazilian drink. We sat, and chatted. We made some "boring" talk, about our hobbies, and she showed me her new E-book reader, the Kindle from Amazon. Since she's Chinese (I'm Chinese American), I built some comfort about some old commonalities, like how were, as children, were expected to grow up and stuff. It turned out that she grew up in the same city I was born in. I mentioned a park my parents took me to when I was 8 yrs old, and a squire my grandparents took me to when I was 4 to ride my tricycle, and it built tremendous comfort because she frequented those places too.

I then offered to take a walk at the waterfront about 15 minutes away. While I was driving, she commented on how she likes to ride in other people's cars because she doesn't have a car of her own and metros everywhere. Other than the initial hug, I still haven't broken the "touch" barrier. Her words and facial expression seemed warm and kind, but her body language seemed a bit frigid. She wouldn't lean in to me or anything. After about 10 minutes of walking around, I took a seat at a bench at the waterfront. I casually threw in that I've been getting slightly into palm reading, she got somewhat intrigued and asked some follow up questions, I did a 5 minute palm reading routine, and the touch barrier was broken. I held her hand, traced it up and down during the routine, but she took her hand away afterwards.

After the palm reading routine, I transitioned into the handwriting analysis routine for more comfort building and the cube game. I couldn't smoothly escalate kino or create much sexual attraction. I took a small chance. The weather was around 50 degrees and she didn't have a jacket on, and I commented on the fact that she had her arms crossed. I said "All those practical psychology stuff I was just talking about, body language is also a really useful one. Such as right now, with your arms crossed in front of you, it either shows you're defensive about your own personality, or you're just cold". She claims to be cold, so I stood up, led her to stand up as well, and held her in my arms........a prolonged hug that held for a long, long time. I took her head and moved it right onto my chest,

and asked "Feeling warmer?"
She quietly, shyly said "yes".
I petted her hair as I kept on hugging her, "so how long has it been since you've been in someone's arms?"
She answered "3 years".
Me: "Do you like this?"
Her: "yes, but.......well, I'm just going to stop talking"

I gave her a kiss on the forehead, and gave her one last squeeze in a hugging manner and led her back onto the bench, sitting next to me, with her cute, slender body next to mine, and my arm around her shoulder. She still seemed a bit frigid, she wasn't pushing me away, but she also didn't lean her body into mine. I commented that she had her hands together between her thighs. Jokingly, I said "It's cute that your hands are between your legs, you're either really cold, or you're really excited and you just want to touch yourself". She laughed and said "shut up". I grabbed her hands with mine, rubbed them together, gave one of her hands a quick kiss, held it a bit longer, "here, better?". She said "yes".

I tried to transition into another location. We spent some time talking about how pretty the bridge across the water was, and I asked "we should take a drive on that bridge". She didn't say yes or no, so I just do what I normally do and assume we were going. As we are standing up, she asked what time it was, and it was around 9:30. She then asked me "Would you like to do that some other time instead?" I said "Yeah, it's getting late and you have to work tomorrow." While walking back to the car, I offered her a mint and she took it. I choked, I hesitated, I lost my window of opportunity. I should've given her a kiss when she took the mint, but I didn't. I don't know why, but our "connection" made me not want to risk anything, could I emo-ly genuinely care about another person? Nah, that can't be it.

On the drive back, we chatted more about dating (not each other though), and our parents' expectations and stuff. I told her about my parents hierarchy of race preferences, and she told me about hers. With our parents being from similar cultures, the hierarchies were exactly the same. She mentioned "I'd like to meet your parents, because they're from the same city I was". I cockily said "Hah, most women I date have to wait months before meeting my parents, you're not going to weasel your way to the front of the line that easily". She said "No, not like that. We will never date, I'm your big sister". I made some more small talk, and got a bit deeper into more serious subjects, like marriages and stuff. At a stop light, she said semi-jokingly "It's okay, I have a brother, my parents don't expect much out of me, and I give up on myself". I said "give me your hand", as she slowly gives me her hand, I held it gave it a small kiss, looked at her in the eyes, "never give up on yourself, you're a good girl". She smiled shyly and looked down.

As I was dropping her off, I asked "so do I get to check out your apartment?" She said "No, it's a mess, maybe another time". She also offered to help me with "girl advice" as a "big sister", I gave her a hug good night and called it a night.


Things I did well:

• Genuine connection and comfort due to similarities
• Artificial comfort due to intriguing routines

Things I need to improve on:

• Generating more attraction - not one-liner attraction "spikes", but really amp attraction overall
• Take more social risks, go for the kiss like I normally should.

Unsuccessful Conversion to a MLTR

Sex on date 3, but fucked up afterwards.

quick background story:

• Quick number close, not very impressive, HB5.
• Date 1 - quick 1 hr drink at a bar, she had somewhere else to go afterwards, but I got the "first date" out of the way
• Date 2 - I picked her up after work on Monday, took her for a walk, and brought her home for dinner because "I was cooking" - one of those "meals for two in a bag" from a grocery store. We "hooked up", but didn't have sex because it was her time of the month.

We scheduled something for the following Sunday around 4PM. My plans ended early on Saturday night while I was out, so I called her up offering to get together, and picked her up (since I was out anyway) at 10PM, . She came over, and we spent the night.

We had sex both Saturday night and Sunday morning. While she was in my arms afterwards on Sunday morning,

she asked "so are we official?"
Me: What do you mean?
Her: Can I officially call you my boyfriend?
Me: Well, you know I'm not looking for anything monogamous. I enjoy being around you and having you in my arms, but I'm not looking to get into anything serious for a while
Her: Okay, I understand.

She didn't seem too upset about it or anything. We stayed at my place for about two more hours until I dropped her off at her place. While dropping her off around noon to play basketball with the guys like I planned to,

she asked: So do you still want to get together tonight?
Me: It's totally your call
Her: Well, let's not since we already go together today
Me: That's cool, as usual, we can schedule something now, or we can play it by ear and contact each other later
Her: Let's contact each other later, I don't know my schedule yet

I gave her a hug as she left, sensing this will be the last hug I give her, which I was right.

Today during work, I got a text message from her, "I dont think we should see each other anymore because ur not looking for a relationship and i am. Sorry it had to be through a text but i know ur working -Ash". I replied with "I understand, I kinda figured that yesterday. Goodluck w finding that dreamboy of yours.". She responded "Thanks for understanding :) -Ash".

I thought that was that, but she then IM'ed me a few minutes after:

(10:43:37) Her: I just don't think it'd be fair to either of us if we keep seeing each other
(10:43:54) Me: Hah, apparently you didn't have your "closure". :)
(10:44:16) Her: Hm?
(10:45:14) Me: Well, what I usually do with women who're "looking for relationships" is I always tell them "I shouldn't stop you from looking for what you're looking for, but until you find that great relationship of yours, you and I can keep seeing each other"
(10:45:21) Me: But if that's not something you'd like to do, I understand. :)
(10:46:41) Her: That's what you usually do with women? Wow.
(10:47:38) Her: So you think it's ok to use women that are looking for a relationship?
(10:47:47) Me: Well, what I usually do with women who're looking for relationships
(10:48:36) Me: I wouldn't say anyone's "using" anyone else......if two people enjoy being with each other, nobody's "using" anyone. It's just that one person's looking for more, and she is welcome to find that elsewhere.
(10:49:30) Her: Well, good luck
(10:50:48) Me: Thanks, and I wish you the same.
(10:55:29) Her: thank you

She wasn't that pretty, so I didn't really care much to save this one. But I personally need to work more on how to achieve mLTR's.

True Cockblock

In my pickup experiences, I've had a few people here and there I'd attribute an unsuccessful set to, but I've never truly experienced a real cockblock until last Saturday.

I went out with a few local aspiring PUA's. In one fairly crowded bar, I was chatting with Radium , and JGlide opened a set. His target was cute - black chick, petite, 7-8 out of 10 on looks. There was a cockblock, fairly tall, slightly overweight white chick, 6 out of 10. There were two other girls, but they were chatting among themselves. I was just chatting with my friends and Radium said "JGlide needs help", I was semi-drunk, and said "huh"? Radium then told me again, "JGlide needs help" and pointed that way. I saw JGlide, trying to keep the target's attention, while the target was interested, but the cockblock kept on talking to the target. Not only did the cockblock keep talking to her while being rude to JGlide, she made a point to get as close to the target as possible making the target face her as she was talking.

I walked over, got intro'ed in, shook hands with both the girls, and started talking to the cockblock. She politely smiled and tried to shoo me away. I plowed on, and kept on talking. I would ask her random questions, she'd be polite and smile and answer with "yeah, okay" without even attempting to listen to the question. I really dislike plowing, but I just wanted to buy time for JGlide. As she unconciously shifted positions with her body language to keep her distance from me because I invaded her personal space on purpose while talking, I calculatedly shifted positions with her, until I created a physical barrier (which is myself) between the obstacle and JGlide's target. I kept her busy for about 30 more seconds, and I think the obstacle realized what's going on, went around me and got in the target's face and started talking to the target again.

JGlide ejected the set soon after. I asked him what's going on, and he said she's got a boyfriend. I despise the obstacle even more because I now understand she's cockblocking for absolutely no reason, there wasn't even a chance for the target to like JGlide.

JGlide, Radium, and myself were sitting around, chatting, and the 4 girls rejoined each other at a table. One of the 2 other girls that were talking between themselves took out a cigarette but had no light, Axe happened to be ejecting an adjacent set, and took out a lighter, and held it out for her (without knowing anyone in the set). The obstacle from before said to the girls "That was weird, where did he come from" and rolled her eyes. It created a weird vibe for the girls and group-think took over, Axe wasn't interested in the set anyway and went on his happy-go-lucky way after he offered her the light.

Why do some women act like that? Are they so unhappy themselves they would make want to decrease the happiness around them by not letting anyone else in their group get any attention from any guys, under the pretense of "protecting each other"?

Looking back now, I should've fucked up her night by walking up to her after JGlide ejected, and said in a serious tone "What is wrong with you? My friend is trying to be cool and interact with your friend, and your friend obviously enjoyed his company, but you were being extremely rude by constantly interrupting the both of them, did your parents teach you to be anti-social like this?", and not give her an opportunity to say anything back by turning around and walking off. If I did that, I bet she would think twice about cockblocking the next guy. I dropped the ball on doing my part for the community service.

Funny Pick Up Stereotypes By Race

Okay, so the clip above shows pick up stereotypes by race. On cold-approaches alone, it shows black and Hispanics being the most competent, at least most confident, following by whites, then at the very last, the shy Asian kid who wouldn't say anything and stare from afar.

This is only for cold approaches. Personal observations makes me think white and Asian guys play "networking game" extremely well, where you meet new people through social circles, such as friends of friends hanging out or house parties.

Back to the cold-approach stereotypes - there definitely are some truths behind it, I personally went through that "Asian lack of pickup" phase in early college days. I also went through the "white phase" where I go up to a girl with semi-confidence "Hey.....what's up...........yeah..........what's your name" and get politely dissed regularly.

This video is great, it reminds me of how far along I've gone through the road of learning game, and I have at least that far to go.

The Jaded PUA

When growing up, we have some false beliefs about women. They're mostly socially conditioned into our brains for many years, from our mothers to Disney movies to mainstream society. These are some examples of beliefs:

• Women are special, beautiful creatures.
• Women need to be saved and protected.
• Women need to be loved and nurtured.
• You need to make women feel special.
• Women need to be wined and dined and romanced.
• Women want nice guys.
• Women don't like sex.

The PUA community teaches differently. They don't flat out say it, but they hint it. Also doing hundreds of cold approaches and following up on phone numbers, hundreds of first or second dates with the intention of "scoring" confirms this mentality:

• Women are flaky and unreliable.
• Women are emotional and illogical.
• Women only live in the emotion of the moment, do what feels good at the time, and justify their actions to themselves after the fact.
• Women are manipulative and use guys for free drinks and dinners.
• Women are fickle and have short attention spans.
• Women are self-centered and self-interested.
• Women primarily go to clubs for attention and validation from men.
• Women constantly test men, try to devalue them, and try to make them jump through hoops.
• Women try to make men suck up to them and put them on a pedestal.
• Women think their pussies are made of gold and sell them to the highest bidder.
• Women don't know what they really want.
• Women are confused and hypocritical. They'll profess to dislike whorish behavior then blow a guy in a bathroom that night.
• Women are programmed to want to get knocked up by an Alpha Male then ensnare an unwitting Beta Male into raising the child for her.
• Women will cheat on their partners coldly and unemotionally.
• Women are slaves to how their friends and society sees them. They want to sleep around, but have to be discrete about it.
• Society's expectations have given women all kinds of weird hang ups up about sex and hooking up. Their minds are full of strange rationalizations and justifications.
• Women aren't happy for long in a relationship and you have to constantly keep them on their toes and off-balance to stay with them.
• Women are powerless to resist the right type of guy. Even if they're married, they'll get sucked along.
• Women are easily manipulated by simple magic tricks and talk of new agey topics.

Source: http://www.datinggroundwork.com/community

On the other hand, the PUA mentality mostly comes from the way we meet women, and the type of women we meet. If we mostly go to bars and clubs for cold approaches, of course the ones we meet are going to be flakey, unreliable, trying to get free drinks from guys, etc. AFC's don't get tested after a while because they prove their "worth" over months or years of trying to "woo" the same girl, and when they DO succeed, he won't get flaked out on because of the comfort he's built over month or years.

For the same reasons PUA's get laid a lot, they also have the endore constant rejection. Each success is a confidence booster for the PUA while each failure makes him dislike women slightly more. With each game the woman plays, each time he gets flaked out on, he gets slightly more sour, slightly more jaded.

This is a story of a guy named Roosh from DC. Here's a great example of how one back experience can make a PUA more jaded for the next, better girl.

Help Needed: Religion Come Back Line

Okay, the 2 people that actually read this blog. I'm kinda stuck on this one.

During early first dates, especially from #'s I get during daygame here and there, I often run into stuff like she saying "How do you feel about God? Does he have a place in your life? I only want to date a Christian". Obviously the "right thing" to do is to prevent something like that, keeping things casual so she doesn't perceive me as trying to "date" them, but sometimes I get AFC-ish and make quicker advances than I should, and that comes up.

As someone who's not religious, what should I say if that comes up, without me compromising my integrity? I've tried some "neutral" stuff, like "I respect all religions" or "I believe in a higher being, but I don't think any religion is absolutely right about everything about this higher being", but none produces good results.

In comfort phase (so neg, ignoring the question, C&F aren't real options), any real come-back lines to this that won't truly disqualify me as someone she'd date?

Ahh.......good old southern small town and its random quirks.

Different Personalities In Men & Their Attractions To Women

Above is a music video by an Eastern Europe boy-band called O-Zone. The song "Dragostea din tei" was popularized by a Numa Numa dance video on YouTube. TI & Rihanna also did a song using the chorus as the intro.

When I came upon the video, I started looking at the body language portaying personalities when they were doing solo parts. Of course, the personalities are exagerated due to them being on stage and all eyes were on them, so they didn't have to deal with "social norms".

The dark haired guy (at 1 minute 40 seconds) portrayed the personality of the smooth, confident, seducer - The Romeo Montague. He gave the crowd great eye contact, with the "I'm interested in you" look. His movements were fairly deliberate, controlled, and minimal.

The blond haired guy (at 1 minute 55 seconds) portayed the personality of a care-free kid - The Huckleberry Finn. He's off doing his own thing, didn't give the crowd much eye contact, aimlessly and carelessly swayed his head back and forth, lost in his own music and his own thoughts.

Of course, there're many "attractive" factors in play such as the social proof of them being music stars and the pre-selection of other girls dancing with them and such. But personality alone, both personalities are extremely attractive to women. The main attractive trait in the first personality would be "confidence", and the second personality's most attractive trait is "I'm doing my own thing with or without you".

I personally would consider myself a mix between those two - not nearly as "smooth" as the first guy or as "care free" as the 2nd, but having some positive quality traits of both.

Theories Of Attraction Outside Of Dating

Attraction isn't only related to sarging and dating, it's everywhere. Theories of attraction works in people's everyday lives. People always want something they can't have, kids always want other kids' toys, etc. I came across a blog post so interesting, I just had to share it.

Game is a social dynamic that children as well as horny adults play. Game has roots deep in the human psyche that appear at a very young age, and thus is immune to the cultural conditioning explanation. My one and a half year old nephew and three year old niece provided excellent test cases of game in action.

Examples

Even though there was a mountain of toys under the tree, some still unwrapped, and toys strewn all over the room, when my nephew saw my niece playing one particular toy with great concentration he decided that was the one he wanted, RIGHT NOW. When she wouldn't share the toy, he cried (i.e. bitched and moaned in child language).

• Game principle demonstrated: Social Proof. My nephew wanted that toy more than all the others (despite the possibility that the other toys were better) because he saw his sister having fun with it. The toy was preselected by my niece.

When I gave my niece her present, she grabbed it and shredded the wrapping into confetti. Her mom had to remind her to thank me and give me a hug, which she did... absent-mindedly and perfunctorily, like she was fulfilling a tedious social obligation.

• Game principle demonstrated: Disqualification. By freely giving my niece a gift when she most expected it, with no strings attached, I disqualified myself as a person who intrigues her. Had I qualified her first - "Hey, I don't know if you've been a good girl this year, maybe I'll give your gift to your brother instead" - she would have worked to earn my gift (i.e. compliment) and showed gratitude in the form of a genuine spontaneous hug.

Later, I was deeply engrossed in playing with the cat. It's a very fat cat that when it sits on you keeps you warm all over, like a wool blanket. My niece saw that the cat was contented, and I was completely focused on scratching it under the chin. I told her she could come and pet it if she was gentle. She bounded over.

• Game principle demonstrated: Pawning. The cat comes closest to competing with my niece for everyone's attention. She knows a competitor when she sees one. By befriending the high value cat and making it a part of my social circle, I was able to pawn it off and lock in my niece's attention.

I was watching one of the great classics on TV - Cannonball Run. My niece wanted to play "magic wand" with me again. (Previously, I let her turn me into a frog.) I waved her away. She kept coming back and I kept telling her to move away from the TV. She whined and ran right up to my face, bopping me on the head with her wand and begging me to turn into a frog.

• Game principle demonstrated: Active Disinterest. My three year old niece knows she is the cutest person in the living room. She prances like a princess. In this environment, she is a 10. I gave her an IOD (Indicator of Disinterest) when I showed more attention to the TV than her, and that motivated her to win my approval.

When I finally relented and turned once more into a frog, and made ribbit noises, she squealed with delight. She zapped me with her wand again, and I turned into a monkey. Then a dog. And a bird. Each time I imitated a new animal, she released bursts of joy. But as my list of zoo animals ran out, she began getting bored. When I half-assedly meowed like a dying cat, she said "That animal is boring. I'm bored" and haughtily walked off.

• Game principle demonstrated: Push-Pull. I spoiled my niece by giving her what she wanted. I was "pulling" her by being her dancing monkey, without pushing her away to keep her wanting more. She became bored with her expectations constantly being fulfilled.

My niece pulled out her stuffed animals and arranged them around a few dishes of my grandmother's fine china. I asked her what the toys were doing, and she said they were having a tea party. I told her the elephant would not need hands because he would suck up his tea with his trunk. Then I pretended to be each of the animals, acting out the scene in progress. "Woof, Mr. Giraffe, would you please pass the bone?" "Excuse me, Mr. Dog, but Mr. Tiger wants to eat you. He likes delicious dog meat with his tea." My niece parried my every move with a storyline of her own. The character development was better than most Hollywood blockbusters.

• Game principle demonstrated: Stimulate her emotions. I threw logic out the window and immersed myself in the stuffed animal tea party world, and my niece's excitement grew the more I built up the fantasy world. She was happy to discard logic and run wild with the animals' dialogue, no matter how little sense it made.

I told my brother-in-law that based on the toys my nephew and niece played with (lincoln logs and princess dolls respectively), there was little chance they would grow up homosexual. His lineage was safe.

• Game principle demonstrated: It's biomechanics all the way down.

New Wing - Axe

Ahhhhh.......what it's like to be new in the game. I remember when I was newer at it, I thought my openers were incredibly awesome, and had a lot of faith in them. I systematically walked up to 2-sets directly across a bar with my wing and said "Settle a debate between us, we got a beer betting on this. From your body language, my friend thinks you haven't known each other for long, like less than 6 months, but I think you've known each other for years. So who was right?", and transitioined into the "best friends test" routine and opened sets 70% of the time.

Now, after learning more book knowledge, knowing more and more things I "shouldn't do", approach anxiety builds up some more. Canned openers seemed fake to me, I no longer have much confidence in it, and it projects onto the sets.

Well, I just met another aspiring PUA locally, and he's in the same stage I was when I was new to the game - the attitude of "this stuff rocks", super confident in his openers, and opens sets semi-consistantly because of it.

Axe, as of 12/27/08:
Strengths:

• has his "basics" down (body language, grooming, dressing, etc)
• great confidence
• In good shape, physique wise
  
• easy rapport
• fearless openners
• can keep a conversation going if needed to
• pre-selection DHV routines

Weaknesses:

• lack book knowledge
• doesn't have enough routines in his rappateur

Being extremely new at the game, he's off to an extremely good start. I'm sure he will improve on his weaknesses with a lot of experience. If he sticks to this hobby and not be content dating instead after he finds some success (like me), he'll be an extremely compitent PUA.

Seems like he did a review of me as well in a local forum:

Ambiance and I met up at Starbucks around 3:50 pm . I was surprised when I met Ambiance he displayed a very cool and relaxed feel when he came by to greet me as I was already at the coffee shop, pretending to be interested in the book I was reading. He called my phone and waved I looked up sup Ambiance whats up. He kept good posture and a very calm aura, in my opinion representing a very Relaxed Alpha Male. He went to get his drink and I sat there a while longer of course always looking for possible sets or prospects to work with.

As he came and sat down down he leaned back kept his head up, he had a well groomed hair style and a clean look...We made general chit chat. He asked me a lot of questions, knowing that I was very new to "The Game."
He had a lot of book knowledge and was very humble in the conversation; I think he was there encouraging me a little bit more than just asking.

I don't know if he was really as impressed with my desire to expand into the lifestyle of a PUA or intrigued. I told him about some of the recent situations with my small field work and he started explaining to me what I was doing in the terms of a PUA; I am running wide open past signs that I can't read because I'm moving to fast. He just slowed things down a little bit a recapped what I had ran pass, it was a lot of great information.

I saw a girl, I recognized her, from ____ high school 2001... Ambiance was talking and I said sorry man I am not trying to be rude I just know that girl I think... "He said there is only one thing to find out." awesome motivational statement he couldn't have said it better. Now I break the 3 second rule I actually try to figure out how I want to approach and such because I am new and I don't really have a real approach I just have a jumble of information that I throw into the mix ... (this is great kills my anxiety)
Approach: Hey! did you go to ___? yes I start talking to her she draws in closer. I keep the conversation flowing now that opener was just laid down before you don't mess it up lol. I started chatting a little asking her how she was blah blah blah THEN! Ambiance "hey man I need to get going", firm hand shake..awesome to set up a story for time constraint if I need it, gave me social status and he kept his coolness around him. Aight man it was nice meeting you. I turned back to Heather, I got my phone out opened it put it in front of her as she was trying to put her coffee insulter on and I continued with a story about Mr Abraham quit blah blah blah. She said she might have a new job out of town soon was in for the holidays I wished her luck on that and she was trying to bitch test me I believe that she was running that responce at me to see my reaction if I would rush a meeting, I acted like I didn't care like I had to go as well... THANK YOU Ambiance great job.

I left and called Ambiance up, of course I knew what he did it was my first time ever being out with a real wing man, fellow PUA, (I still consider myself an AAFC) What he did was natural and genius and the same thing I would have done if I had been him. So on our parts we both get level ups there I would imagine.

I look forward to hanging out with more of you guys in efforts to improve all of our game together.

Till Next Time

-Axe

Collabrative Effort, End Cock Blocking: Pass It On

Every aspiring PUA has encountered this - you were gaming your target and isolated her. Attraction's built, comfort is near. But all of a sudden, her fat/ugly/lonely/bitter, or any of the combination friend comes in and start talking to the target, effectively cockblocking you. The flow is ruined, you go home alone, your target goes home alone, and her friend finds the comfort of "nobody's happier than her" or "nobody else is getting laid either". Maybe the friend can self-justify on her moral highhorse, that she just "saved her friend from being gamed", when in reality, her friend would actually enjoy stepping into the reality of the aspiring PUA. Most PUA's are full of techniques that maintain control of the flow while making women feel good about themselves - something most women would desire.

Well, Roosh has the solution - but it takes all of our effort. Stop playing it safe, stop acting "socially accommodating" and join Roosh in his quest to change the dynamics of the sexual economy in the US.

The way to end cockblocking in the United States came to me in a dream. I woke up and immediately grabbed a pen so I wouldn't forget something that could change the lives of millions of men.

If you get cockblocked by a girl, you need to respond by shaking her core so hard that she hesitates doing it ever again, like a mouse who hits the wrong lever and gets the shit zapped out of him. No jokes and no wit—you gotta get dirty.

This is what you must say to the cockblocker. Say it with a stern tone, like a parent scolding a child.

"Did you really just do that? I'm being friendly and respectful to your friend and you rudely interrupt. Did your parents teach you to be anti-social like that?"

Then shake your head and turn your back on her. Don't engage her in a conversation or even act like you hear her response. She no longer exists.

This ruins her night, completely. Girls are emotional creatures and it takes them a very long time to get over getting called out like that. To top it off, girls absolutely hate it when you don't allow them to respond. They are so used to getting in the last word in their arguments with men (they are addicted to closure, remember), that she will be thinking of what happened for a long time to come.

I was talking to a girl and mid-sentence out of nowhere this bitch rolls up between us and starts yapping her mouth. I tap her on the shoulder and she turns around. With a straight face I said, "You see we're talking here, right?” She gave me a stunned look and immediately stormed off. Her friend gave chase to console her.

Do you think she interrupted another conversation that night? I don't think so. She probably went home to call her beta hanger-on for support.

If every guy calls out a cockblocker just once a month, I'm confident it will cease to exist in a year or two. I'm dead serious. Girls will continue to cockblock as long as there is no punishment for doing so, and since it's against the law to slap her upside the face, you have to use words. But it's important you don't use profanity or call her names because then she won't take you seriously. Be mostly respectful so she can't immediately write you off as an asshole. You're a good guy who is shocked and appalled by the rudeness you were just victim to. You don't believe what the world is coming to.

It's our fault that girls cockblock. We've been letting them get away with it for so long that girls know there is absolutely no cost for them to block. We stand there with dumbfounded looks on our face while she gets satisfaction that her friend is going home alone just like her. It's time to let them earn that cockblock.

Here are the keywords to remember: respectful, rude, interrupt, anti-social. I don't care if I get kicked out of bars but I'm going to ruin her night, and she's going to think twice about doing it again. Worthless bitch.

Random Day Game in San Diego

I did a little bit of day-game while traveling to San Diego. I had the perfect opener - "Excuse me, I'm from the east coast, in town for the weekend to check the place out, and thinking of moving here. How long have you been living in San Diego and what're your thoughts on it?"

The first girl I number closed was a cashier in a downtown market. Cute, but supposedly taken (had a boyfriend). For some reason, she offered me her Email address and phone number "to keep in touch".


My second encounter was an interesting one. I was sitting at a sushi bar and a cute, older woman sat to my left. She seemed refined, around the age of mid-30's and had the "not to be bothered" vibe. I ignored her for a while, while getting my food and Saki. The Saki bottle was bigger than expected, so I was planning on taking some back to the hotel.

After "being normal" for about 10 minutes, I decided to attempt the same opener about me being in town for the weekend and wanted to "ask a local" about her opinions. She was receptive, and the set was opened. I asked her what rent prices are around here, especially an apartment by the beach (to convey that I'm a fun guy). I also DHV'ed by telling her what I did for a living, and asking questions such as "As a single guy, how much would I need to make here to be super comfortable, as in to be able to go out 4 nights a week, and randomly drop $50 each time without thinking twice about it? Something like $80k or something like $150k?" This conveyed the lifestyle I currently live and sub-communicated that "I'm not rich, but I make good money".

About 5 minutes into the conversation, I decided that she's pretty cool, so I offered her some alcohol. "Would you like some Saki? I can't possibly finish it myself" then showing her the big bottle I got. With slight hesitation, she said "Well, yeah, sure, why not." I asked for another Saki glass, and we started drinking together. I took Saki periodically in a shot-like manner, but she consistently sipped on it.

I asked her what she does, and she said she was an artist. She draws from live, pictures, or memory. So I went with a quick compliance test - I asked her to draw a 30 second characture of me from memory, as I turned facing the other way. She drew something quick on a napkin, and said "the biggest thing that stood out for me was your hair".



I made a comment about her signature, and that started my handwriting analysis routine, and she wrote a small sentence for me to analyze.


She seemed to enjoy it, so I followed it up with the cube game routine. I got her attention and her interest. IOI's were flying everywhere from her. She wanted to know all about me. We started chatting about dating and relationships, and she turned out to be married. Without a ring on her hand, maybe she said it to turn me off, but I genuinely believed she was married because I asked some more questions about it and she seemed natural about it.

At the end of the meal, I showed her my mood ring on my finger that I got at the souvenir shop, and asked her if she knew much about mood rings. She said no, and asked what the current colors meant. My response was "It shows excitement, intrigue, but also disappointment". It generated a smile from her. I then followed up by showing direct interest, "If you were single, I'd definitely invite you for a drink in my hotel room". She smiled, and seemed appreciative that I was interested.

I ended my meal by paying for my check, and we ended the night with a hug. Great experiences in San Diego.

Lessons Learned:

• Women in San Diego have less bitch shield than women in the small town I currently live in - either that or I can attribute it to my "I'm only here for the weekend" opener
• I need to have a true "need" to run day-game well, and it needs to be a "need" that takes more than 20 seconds to solve (such as asking for directions)
• New routines around the mood ring sounds intriguing, I should start perfecting it
  

The Unjaded Youth

The Unjaded Youth

So I'm taking a trip to the LA / San Diego area over Thanksgiving break. I'm excited because it's my first time visiting the SoCal area. While waiting at the airport, a young, cute girl asked both myself and the guy next to me if we were going to Minneapolis, our connecting stop. We both said yes. She said "Yeah, my connecting plane boards 10 minutes before this one is scheduled to land". I asked "going to LA?". She said yes, and asked me if I was doing the same thing, I said "yes", and the conversation was started among the three of us.

I mostly sat back and kept on playing with my phone while the guy next to me chatted with her. They mostly went through the "rapport building" stuff, told each other where they were from, etc. She seemed receptive and didn't have a bitch shield on, and the conversation between the guy and the girl went on for about 20 minutes. The news came - the flight was delayed an hour and they changed the gate. The guy and his friend went to the other gate, and I struck up a conversation with the girl.

Me: So what type of shows do you guys do? (She travels to do comedy shows, and sets up the stage and all)
Her: We do skit comedy about dating and relationships
Me: So how long do the shows usually last?
Her: About 2 hrs, but you don't really notice it because it's really funny and interesting
...[some more rapport building question about the show]...
Me: So being in a show about dating and relationships, does it make you jaded about the whole relationship in general?
Her: What do you mean?
Me: Well, in the past few years, I've dated a lot of women. The more women I dated, the more I seemed to be able to streamline the process, making each one even more unspecial. Do you know what I mean?
Her: Yeah, I'm currently waiting, I let Crist guide my life and I feel like I will find that special somebody.

The conversation continued. Instead of chatting about boring rapport building stuff, she and I chatted about relationships, more of what people are looking for in life. I didn't try to close her, she isn't from the city I'm from and she seems pretty clear on what she wants (at age 19), and I certainly am nothing like what she's looking for.

My Analysis of her:

Good:

• Out going
• No bitch shield
• Not judgemental (especially when I told her I'm looking for and always had mLTR's)
• Young, cute
• Can take a joke (when I negged about not liking her name, so I'm gonna call her "Kim" from now on, it's one of my fav names for women)
• Her youthful body language - the body language of a teenager, from laying down on 2 adjacent airport seats to sitting on her chair Indian style.
  

Bad:

• Religion as ideal and reasoning, "I'm not dating because God doesn't want me to date right now"
• Has a "top 10 list" of what she wants out of her future husband - setting herself up for disappointments
• Thinks she knows exactly what she wants at age 19.

Misunderstandings And Hastiness

I was at a bar with Radium as night. I went to the bar to get a drink for myself and Radium, and opened a 2-set sitting on my left. I started a 2-3 sentence chat with the girl sitting closest to me, while Radium started talking with the other one. There was a slight misunderstanding on the drinks ordered with the bartender due to the loudness of the bar.

The girl closest to me playfully said "damn Asians" (I happen to be Asian). I ignored it and took slight offense. After getting my drink, I looked at Radium, he has his set engaged. I wanted to eject the set because of the Asian remark the girl I was talking to made, but I didn't want to drag Radium out of the set because he was doing well. I told him "I'm going to go play some pool, I'll be right back". I left, the pool table was being used, so I went sitting at a different bar inside the building, and started chatting with the bartender. My drink was finished, so I thought I'd come up and check on Radium, he still had his target engaged, was telling DHV stories and the whole deal, so I ordered another drink at the bar they were sitting at. I faced straight at the bar the whole time, a smile on my face because I felt like it was necessary in order to not blow Radium out of his set. The bartender took a while to get my change back, and the whole time I showed the whole set IOD's. My original targeted tried to start chatting with me, but I politely smiled and answered her questions as I was waiting on my change, almost like a male version of the "bitch shield". I waited on my change, tipped the bartender, and politely walked away again.

Later on, Radium joined me in the other bar after he number closed his target. As we were leaving the place hitting up the next bar, he asked me what happened. I told him about why I ejected, and Radium told me "Dude, she's Asian herself". Wow, it seems like me being unaware of random stuff has really bit me in the ass this time, she was simply trying to build rapport with the "Damn Asians" comment. Radium then told me she was married anyway.

Lingering thought: Did my target show interest in me because I showed her absolutely no interest at all, and this is one of those "wanting what they can't have" things? Or did she show me fake interest so I wouldn't drag Radium away from his target? Almost like a female version of a "wingman"?

Direct vs Indirect Game

I have this conversation with Radium a lot, the thoughts of direct vs indirect game. I'm more of a believer in indirect game due to my own personality, and Radium does direct game more because it's worked well for him in the past.

Example of Radium's direct game:

• [Directly look at the girls, speaking in a smooth, interested voice]
• Hey girls, what's going on. So what're your names? [wait on answer]
• Awesome, I'm [insert name].
• So where're you girls from? [wait on answer]
• That's awesome, I'm from [insert location].
• So are you going to college there? [wait on answer]
• Cool, what's your major? [wait on answer]
• [insert a 15 second comment about when he was in college].
• [ask next comfort building question]

Example of my indirect game:

• [Walking by a couple of girls, quick stop looking over the side of the shoulder, body language being a an angle, speaking in an extremely casual voice]
• Quick question, my friend and I made a bet. I lost and have to dye my hair. Is it acceptable for me to dye my hair black (I have natually black hair)?
• Awesome, I knew you girls would agree with me, thanks (or "Oh? Why not? I AM gonna dye my hair, he just didn't specify the color).
  
• [Interrupting whatever the girl's going to say next] Your nose wiggles when you talk, did you know that? Go ahead, what were you saying?
• [transitioin into DHV story]

Our philosophies on direct game:

Me: Going after them directly and showing too much interest in the girls(before they're interested in me) lowers my value. "I" approached "them", I'm more interested in them than they are interested in me. I'm after them, they know it, therefore I'm starting off with a handicap of the perceived (maybe subconscious) thought of "they're better than me", and "they have higher social value than I do".

Radium: I am great at building rapport, and they love talking about their favorite subjects - themselves. Women always tell me I'm a great listener because I let them yap on about themselves.

Personally, I think if done correctly, both work, and both work well. The main difference is the opener. At a certain point in pick-up, you're supposed to show interest, no matter what type of game you run. Here are some techniques to pull both off during the beginning phases of each game type:

To build attraction via direct game:

• Sub-communicating sincerity
• Strong intent
• Body language and directness showing high value

To build attraction via indirect game:

• Sub-communicating playfulness
• False Disqualification (through words or body language)
• Neg
• DHV stories